By Uzziah Davis
Have you ever heard or experienced someone talking behind your back? If you have here is how to deal with it.
First, make sure you know all of your facts. Gossiping, to me, is spreading rumors about somebody behind their back. If you don’t know for sure that someone is saying something about you, then you become just as bad.
To get your facts straight, I recommend asking the person yourself, but using a calm but confident voice when you say this, or you can try using this social skill:
Step 1: Using a Calm but Confident tone of voice
Instead of stomping up to someone like you want to bite his or her head off. What you need to do is walk up confidently and address the person how you would address anyone of your peers. You need to this so drama doesn’t start.
Step 2: Use an “I-statement” to communicate how you feel
Ex. “I felt _____ when you _____”
We hardly ever start with an “I-statement.” We usually start with “You-statements” for instance: “You did this to me so now I want you to apologize.” So I wanted to let you know, it might be hard because you’re in the habit of saying “you.” So you should start practicing by yourself saying statements that start with ‘I”, which means how you, yourself, feels.
Step 3: Use a confronting statement to tell them what you need
Ex. “I would appreciate if you could stop spreading rumors about me.”
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